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Men Think About Sex (almost) All The Time

A good friend once asked me, "Why are men such horny little monkeys?"   And it's true, isn't it? 

You've heard all the cliches and statistics, like "men think about sex every 7 seconds".  That may be an exaggeration, but there's no doubt that men have frequent sexual thoughts even if they may only last a fraction of a second at times.

Part of it is our makeup.  Back in our ancient history, life was short and difficult...if a man wanted to pass on his genes he had to mate before the day came where he got his noggin crushed by a saber-tooth tiger or some other predator. 

Part of our primitive brains are hard wired to always be looking at an evaluating potential mates, no matter what kind of relationship we happen to be in at the time.  Some insecure wives and girlfriends might be annoyed at this behavior, but even the most loyal and committed man will find his eyes wandering to some fine specimen of the female species and it's usually beyond his concious control to prevent it.   This does not mean he will go chasing after her...that part is within his control...but if some cleavage, the bump of a nipple, or a shapley rump catches his eye he should not be chastised for noticing!

Now, here's something that not many men and women are aware of: men have a little ticking alarm clock of horniness inside of them.  Some days, they just can't get their minds off of sex, and they don't know why.  Well, friend, once I learned about WHY this happens, I was like: "A HA!" and it explained so much.

See, there are two little organs in the male body, like little balloons, called seminal vesicles.  The seminal vesicles are located near the bladder (what holds urine) and the prostate gland, inside the male body.  Thes little organs make and store a good part of the liquid (seminal fluid) that comes out of the penis when a man has an orgasm.  Some of the fluid comes from the prostate gland, some comes from the testicles, but the rest is made by the seminal vesicles.  They're like a dripping faucet...they're constantly making a little bit of this liquid and storing it up.   Of course, if the man doesn't drain them by having an orgasm, they get filled up.  Every man gets "full" at a different rate...some men make a lot of seminal fluid and might get to that point every day, while others may take a week or more.

Surrounding this pair of 2-inch storage tubes is a network of pressure-sensitive nerves that lead up the spinal column to the hypothalamus in a man's brain.  You can think of these nerves as the volume control on a man's horniness...when his seminal vesicles are full these nerves are sending messages to his brain that make him acutely aware of sexual triggers in his environment.  Where a few days ago he might not have noticed the cute clerk at the supermarket, today he's gawking at her breasts and wondering if her bra is lace or satin and what color her nipples are.   The hypothalamus is dumping testosterone into his bloodstream, getting him ramped up for aggression and mating.

The only think that turns the volume back down is getting sexual release and emptying his seminal vesicles again: whether this is by having sex with his partner, masturbating, or having a "wet dream" in his sleep.  Once he has ejaculated, things tend to calm down again and he's not such a "horny little monkey," as my friend put it.

Men aren't really aware of their seminal vesicles directly...they usually can't feel the "fullness", they just feel more easily aroused and don't know why.  Sometimes if a man has been taking pills like Ogoplex or eating foods that increase the amount of seminal fluid ("cum") their body makes, then they might become aware of these organs because they tend to be engorged and full more often.  I know that for me personally, when I'm taking Ogoplex and some other vitamins for a while that I can learn to sense my two seminal vesicles and how loaded with fluid they are everyday.  I get like a cow that has to be milked! lol

So ladies, instead of complaining about your man being horny, try to understand what's causing it and show some understanding. :-)